|"We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives."|
|John F. Kennedy
"We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives."John F. Kennedy
Thanking others is a crucial part of your self-improvement. Marshall Goldsmith writes in his bestselling book, What Got You Here Won't Get You There, that "Thanking works because it expresses one of our most basic emotions: gratitude."
When repeated regularly, showing genuine gratitude for those who have helped you reminds you of how important they are to your personal success, which not only helps to keep you honest, but being thankful can actually be the driving force behind your sustained efforts to be a better person.
How Thankful Are You?
How often do you say, "Thank you"?
You may have been brought up to associate saying "thank you" as a sign of weakness or submission (such as being forced by a parent to say thank you when you really didn't mean it), or perhaps you associate the words with punishment and humiliating experiences. If this is the case, you need to get past these misconceptions, because the reality is that gratitude is an asset, and it's the lack of it that's the serious interpersonal flaw.
Being thankful is like a muscle; it can be built with conscious effort over time. It won’t hurt you (or your position) to express your gratitude often—it can only help.
When was the last time you did something nice for someone and didn't get a thank you in return? How did that make you feel? Avoid making others feel that way by making a conscious effort to be thankful.
5 Reasons Why We Need to Show Gratitude
1. Those who are thankful are seen in a better light
People like to be appreciated, and feel badly if you don't express it when they feel it's due. Saying, "thank you," shows admiration and respect.
2. Leads to greater happiness and satisfaction with life
An attitude of gratitude has been scientifically linked to greater happiness; less stress, depression, and anxiety; more satisfying relationships; and better health.
3. It keeps you humble
Thanking those around you not only makes others feel better—it also serves to remind you that you could not have achieved your success without their help.
Being thankful helps you not only recognize your strengths, but also your weaknesses and deficiencies. Before you can ask for help you have to admit to the fact that you need help in the first place.
5. Boosts professional success
Those who are grateful tend to seek out more success and draw more success into their lives. This is partly due to the simple fact that when you are grateful, more people will want to be around you. People who are positive tend to be better networkers, decision makers, leaders, managers, and are more productive.
In our latest lesson on the Marshall Goldsmith Channel, we're talking about why thanking is critical to your professional development and discussing how we can say "thank you" in a creative new ways.